Take your son and have him lay his head in your lap. Tell him that this will not be a s****l event. Warn him that you may feel some intense things and that it isn't his fault.
Imagine yourself separated from your son. Think of that feeling, the deep and aching loss that you may have felt in the past when people you know have died, or relationships have ended. Hold that feeling. Do not allow your son to comfort you.
Once you have the image clearly, think about the potential impact of what you have done with your son. Explain to him why you wouldn't have done this with him before this event. Tell him all the reasons that you can think of that what you have done is ill-advised and a bad idea. Be thorough. If he looks concerned, reassure him that you are doing this because it is necessary ra
