ALEXANDER I had always wondered why my mother never talked about her family. It was one of those subjects I had learned not to push too hard because, every time I brought it up, Helen had a way of making the conversation disappear before I could get any real answers from her. When I was younger, I hadn't thought much of it. Children rarely question the things their parents choose not to explain. If my mother didn't talk about her parents, I simply assumed there was a reason for it. Whenever I asked, she would give me some vague response, change the subject, or find something else for us to talk about. As I grew older, I became more aware of how deliberate it was. She wasn't forgetting. She was avoiding it. And I had never understood why. I personally knew almost nothing about my m

